I’m being cheated on............ I think!

So I’m sitting here and I started thinking about all the stories I’ve been told about how friends of mines have spouses that have been cheating on them, and the procedures they went through to prevent that from happening. Honestly it’s pretty dumb! We and I say we because I’m guilty of it too, we go through hell and back stressing about whether or not our boyfriend or girlfriend is going to cheat on us and in the end the only person that ends up hurt is us.

Honestly most of the time if you cheat through your entire relationship and you get caught you feel bad mainly because you got caught not because your truly sorry that you hurt the person you cheated on, because if you were then you would have just broke up with that person period. But any who we go through extreme measures to catch a person cheating like hiring private investigators, hacking into facebook, email accounts and twitters and honestly if and only if we find something we never leave the person, we just bitch about it and then the cheating spouse switches up on their style.

No matter what we do in life to prevent a person from cheating if a person is going to cheat then they are going to cheat, sorry but that’s the truth. So here are a list of not things not to do if you think you are being cheated on. These examples are based on true facts, honestly.

1. Don’t count condoms and then tell them you are counting condoms. All they are going to do is keep a secret pack that you know nothing about.

2. Don’t pop up at the house, if they have a feeling you will pop up at the house they will not go home.

3. Staying under your spouse all day does not prevent cheating if they really want to cheat on you they will go run an errand and have sex maybe in the car before they come home.

4. Doing a bed check for smells and spots will not prevent your spouse from cheating they will have sex in chairs, or on the floor, or just wash the sheets before you come over.

5. Calling all day will not prevent them from cheating they will have sex while they are on the phone with you.

6. Checking phones and facebooks and twitters and then letting them know your checking their stuff will not prevent them from cheating they will just change their passwords.

7. Checking your spouse for hair and lipstick and the smell of another man or woman will not prevent them from cheating because a smart person would just freshen up before they see you.

8. Telling your spouse they are not allowed to have the opposite sex as a friend is definitely not going to work because now days they could be having sex with the same sex.

9. Just because you tell your spouse you have a feeling they are cheating on you will not make them fly right it just makes them cover up their tacks.

10. Do not hire a private investigator save your money, it’s not like they are going to tell you what your gut hasn’t already said in the beginning.

These examples are not meant to get the cheaters caught up or to make people paranoid it’s to relieve the people who are being cheated on some stress. After we stop doing all of this think of how much time we will have on our hands to relax and take a drink. I say keep your daily routine and never let your spouse know that you are on to them, because one day they will get comfortable and reckless and before you know it you’ll have your bags packed and ready to go on a singles vacation with the money you would have spent on a private investigator

Quantity vs. Quality?

Hey blog world, today I wanted to discuss quantity verses quality, as you know there is a huge double standard between men and women even though women have come a long way to walk in some of the shoes men do, the sad truth is that double standards will always exist with the biggest double standard being the number of sexual partners women and men are allowed to have before it becomes unacceptable. Though it is more acceptable for men to have many sexual partners it does diminish the quality of man, because just like men don’t want females that have a huge number of sexual partners neither does the female. Being a woman myself I do find that it is a turn off if I meet a guy who has had sex with every chick they've met, because their self value has gone down. I don't want a guy that every woman has had, however it is more forgivable
because with men sex is physical and not mental.
Now some may feel that in a mans case the more women the more experience but I feel that you can learn a lot with just one person, it's just a matter of wanting to get to know each others body, and further more their likes. Plus both of you have to want to try new things because otherwise it just goes south.
Ladies I didn’t forget about you I love that we are independent but the truth is that the double standard in this particular case is never going to end. Anything men can do we can do better, but when it comes down to multiple sexual partners let's be honest it’s not really cute. No man is going to disagree with a woman that wants to just have casual sex because they don’t plan on taking you home to meet mom ever. If he does then deep down it was a mistake and he has yet to admit it.Now I hang around a lot of guys and I learned guys won't tell you if they think your a hoe. The sad truth is they will have sex with you even play house, but when they have the conversation with their guys about why u didn’t make the cut it's because they secretly think your a hoe.
This blog is not to offend women and it shouldn't especially if you are secure with yourself and if your secure with yourself then this blog will not faze you. Now I’m no angel trust and like I said before I'm not trying to offend anyone but it frustrates me that it's so many women that don’t own up to the fact that they use to be or have hoe like mannerisms. Not only that, they sit here and they say well if men can sleep around so can I and it liberates us, but no it doesn't it actually liberate us, it makes you a hoe and it sets the real independent hard working women back a couple of years. Ladies realize that that same man who has many sexual partners is still going to end up with a woman that has fewer to none sexual partners, and you are most likely going to end up 40 years old alone still hanging where the 22 year olds hang looking for a man. Blog world what do you think, does having many sexual partners diminish the quality of a woman or man? Does the quantity of sexual partners enhance the quality of sex?